Being Good Partners

Since March is my physical and spiritual birthday, I asked the Lord to give me a gift this month.  And what I wanted was spiritual growth and left the details up to the Lord.

In the same night of my birthday this past week, my husband and I had similar dreams with the same themes.  Our dreams were long, so I won't go into details, but I will share the themes, which are the important parts for spiritual growth.

Both of our dreams had the same three major points, which are as follows.  My husband does not agree with what I am doing, he becomes involved in my life choices but worries about it and these decisions endanger our relationship.

While we agreed this was a reflection of our life together, the best solution to this problem was prayer.  As Christians, we have the perfect marriage Counselor, Jesus Christ.

Jesus will teach us how to be good partners, because He wants His followers to be a loving team.  This applies not only to married couples, but to all of our brothers and sisters in Christ.

Family Fun

This past weekend has been one of great joy with my family. I had family come in from out of town for Saturday, and we went out of town to visit our children on Sunday.

 

I had been praying for reconciliation in our family, and God has blessed us this past weekend with lots of family.  My husband was worried about conflict, but we had joyous peaceful visits full of love.

 

However, this works best under the direction of Jesus because we have the free will to stay crabby but He knows how to plant the seeds of change.  Thank You, Lord, for making this holiday full of family fun!

Family Harmony

Every since I got married three years ago, I've been praying for reconciliation in our family.  There are many reasons why families grow apart, like being too busy, unresolved issues, nothing in common, geographical distance, unrealistic expectations, etc.

Since God has a spiritual purpose behind everything He does, there are reasons why we're connected together in a family with these specific people.  However, this doesn't mean that we accept abuse or manipulation but pray fervently in all situations for supernatural help to stay in His will.

While I've seen many miraculous changes in family members over the last few years, this past week and upcoming weekend is awesome.  I had the privilege of meeting half of my husband's siblings last week and now Father's Day weekend will be one of family fun with relatives on both Saturday and Sunday.

When human family fun gets overwhelming, we should pray for help from our real Father because He is all powerful, loves us unconditionally and has a wonderful plan for our lives.  

This supernatural support for family harmony is only a prayer away through Jesus Christ.

1st Big Miracle of 2014

One of the biggest miracles in the world is when an angry difficult atheist becomes a loving peaceful Christian.  I saw this amazing change in my Dad when he accepted Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior last month.

Instead of an alcoholic drink to relax, he goes to Jesus for peace.  Instead of the world or people for advice and direction, he goes to God.

Wow! I don't know this man, but I like him!

What an exciting way to begin a year of miracles with God! A miraculous new life is only a prayer away!

My Real Father

Ever since I can remember my earthly father has taken his anger out on me.  These experiences have always made me feel afraid and worthless.

However, this changed after meeting my Heavenly Father.  He gave me out-of-this-world unconditional love and for the first time in my life I felt special.

This supernatural support continued when I visited my father and he yelled at me.  As I started to feel worthless again, my Heavenly Father came to me and said, "This is not your father, I am your Father."

With this declaration, He filled me with love, and I was reminded of the perspective I needed for a joyful life.  Our Loving Father is only a prayer away.

Strive For Peace

To have a peaceful life, it is important for people to consider their family, friends, coworkers, etc. that they see on a regular basis.

Do these people have values and qualities that are a joy to emulate? Do they create an atmosphere of relaxation, acceptance and respect?

If not, people can improve their lives by making a conscious choice to eliminate or reduce these contacts for peace.

~ For more information, read my ebook, Tranquil Hearts Program For Achieving Peace, that is available at www.tranquilhearts.com

Culture Determines Our Programming

Western children are encouraged to sleep alone and to move as quickly as possible toward independence in their thinking and choices to be unfettered free agents with autonomous identities and masters of their universes. Eastern children are taught to have a strong sense of connection to others and only see themselves in relationship to the whole as represented by their family, neighborhood, culture, Tao, etc., so context becomes important, not the individuals.

~ From The Bond: Connecting Through The Space Between Us by Lynne McTaggart

Are We Compatible?

Relationship compatibility questions come up pretty often with people, and no wonder considering the divorce rate. Problems can occur when choices are based on the subconscious desire to seek out the familiar relationship pattern learned from influential, childhood authority figures.

If the relationships were beneficial and enjoyable with these authority figures, any future attachments would be wonderful, too. However, people often have compatibility problems with them and a desire to resolve these issues, so they attempt to change the past by selecting the same type of dissimilar people for partners – and the conflict continues.

However, this situation will improve once people recognize that differences can be good and quit repeating their childhood role. As adults, people can stop reacting and start thinking before responding to a comment or situation.

Successful relationships require excellent communication, and with the greater the differences between the couple, the greater the work this is to obtain. When striving for understanding, it can be effectively accomplished with role reversal.

Role reversal is pretending to be the other person and calmly explaining his or her view for clarification, which means NO sarcasm, judgments, insults, etc. Another method is to strive for discernment by asking and answering information-gathering questions for insight and acceptance.

Along with communication, people must have a foundation upon which to build their relationship. The basis for this support is mutual acceptance, respect and values because people need to not only love each other but like each other, as well.

Good from Bad

Whenever a storm hits, I always search for the rainbow because life is a mix of both good and bad. I gained many wonderful benefits from my Father's illness, like an opportunity to study the medical system, a greater appreciation for the body's ability to heal, interesting information on how the brain works, etc.

I gained this new insight on brain functioning from this wonderful book recommend by a Respiratory Therapist named Larry at Barnes-Jewish Hospital. Out of all I read, this book,"My Stroke of Insight," by Jill Bolte Taylor, Ph.D., provided the best information on what my Father was experiencing from his stroke.

This book explains clearly from both a medical and personal experience what a stroke involves. When Ms. Taylor had her stroke at 37, she worked at Harvard Medical School as a Brain Scientist performing research and teaching.

The great information Ms. Taylor provides in her book comes from both her medical and personal knowledge on how the body reacts and recovers from a stroke. It is interesting on how this data sometimes conflicts with the medical system.

In her book, I especially found it interesting on how the two hemispheres of the brain function. I know that the methods I follow stops the unbeneficial programming and when this happens, it opens up inner peace, but what I did not know was that the critical, unhelpful beliefs came from the left side and the peaceful, spiritual ones from the right hemisphere.

The human body is both amazing and mysterious. Any opportunity to discover and learn more is always a blessing.



To learn more about Dr. Jill, her work and experiences, you can visit her site at www.mystrokeofinsight.com

Love Those Differences!

Since I've gained inner peace, I started noticing why things used to bother me.  One of the big challenges was my family because I'm so different.

Family reunions used to be so hard for me.  I always felt like an outcast, but my last one this month was fantastic!

I truly enjoyed learning about everyone and not feeling threatened by their differences.  These obvious differences used to make me feel judged and question my sanity.

Now that I have inner peace, I feel confident, accepting and relaxed.  So when differences arise and people are surprised or uncomfortable with my responses, it doesn't bother me at all and I can enjoy the experiences.

A Loving Family

Sometimes the people I have perceived as my enemies are really my family. The misinformation that I received in childhood was constantly being reinforced by these people, and I hated being around them.

Once I learned how to rid myself of these unbeneficial beliefs, I learned to accept and love not only myself but my family, as well. My family has not changed but because I have changed so much, our relationship has turned from barely tolerable to fantastic.

Despite having fantasized many times about changing my family, I discovered that it was not necessary. After gaining inner peace, I now have the self-confidence, clarity and wisdom to realize my limitations (as in I can not control others) and obtain the great experiences (by making good decisions) I had always longed to have with them.