A Higher Love

Everybody has been created out of the Joy from our Creator’s Love in order for all beings to evolve their souls and return. Life is a wonderful gift that some beings embrace and develop, while others rebel and exercise their free will in a destructive manner.

One step down this path of growth is for human beings to rediscover their real selves and shed the parts of their false selves, so they can stop being in conflict with God, themselves and others. Real love is humble, confident, accepting, giving, compassionate, genuine, wise and forgiving as demonstrated by Jesus Christ.

With this love thinking, inner peace becomes the primary mood and even when negative feelings come, they are only temporary. The whole range of human emotions is still everyone’s experience to facilitate spiritual growth.

A Loving Family

Sometimes the people I have perceived as my enemies are really my family. The misinformation that I received in childhood was constantly being reinforced by these people, and I hated being around them.

Once I learned how to rid myself of these unbeneficial beliefs, I learned to accept and love not only myself but my family, as well. My family has not changed but because I have changed so much, our relationship has turned from barely tolerable to fantastic.

Despite having fantasized many times about changing my family, I discovered that it was not necessary. After gaining inner peace, I now have the self-confidence, clarity and wisdom to realize my limitations (as in I can not control others) and obtain the great experiences (by making good decisions) I had always longed to have with them.

A Loving Partnership

Even after three marriages, I had no frame of reference for a loving partnership. My selection of partners was based mostly on beliefs from my childhood with a few new ideas, like needing something in common.

Gaining inner peace gave me the clarity and understanding to realize that a great relationship is far more than satisfying a need or convenience. A loving partnership starts with an incomprehensible amount of mutual insights that are both surprising and mysterious, like a spiritual experience.

This spiritual relationship then grows into a wondrous adventure of learning and enlightenment traveling through both ups and downs. Beneficial partners develop a great union because they feel compelled to strive for a better and closer loving connection with each other.

Learning About Love

When people arrive in this world, their first experience of love comes from their caretakers. Sometimes a child has enough positive love from one or more caretakers so that he or she has some frame of reference for the confident, wise, compassionate, giving kind of love.

However, since people are influenced more strongly by negativity, this positive love still might not be enough to counter the vain, illusionary, unthinking, selfish kind of love or more likely a mix of the two that most people receive. And when no beneficial example of love is available, then people are really miserable and lost.

No matter what the age, when a person sheds the childhood beliefs that makes one unhappy, a new understanding of love follows. The first person one will learn how to love on the journey to inner peace is him or herself.

Self love is believed to be bad because it is so often mistaken for the vain, ego-driven, selfish, low-self-esteem type of love, which is not love at all. Real self love is confident, accepting, giving, compassionate, genuine, wise and forgiving.

Loving occurs as a consequence of gaining inner peace. When people become their real selves, they no longer hold on to the negative emotions or behave heartlessly out of ignorance.

They have the skills to make beneficial, kind decisions. Then this ability for compassion and love can be extended to everyone, even their enemies.